7 Ways to Handle Job Rejections Like a Boss
We’ve all had our stories of job rejections, some more heartbreaking and crushing than others, especially those job applications we thought we already had in the bag. Then, BAM! The rejection email pinged your inbox. To add insult to injury, you received a generic email: “We appreciate you taking the time to apply but we will not be moving forward with your application at this time.” Cue the disappointing tears and yes, a little sulking on the couch with a pint of ice cream you usually reserve for when you get your heart broken.
But guess what? Rejection happens to everyone, and while it stings, it’s not your fault (usually). Here are seven ways to handle job rejections like a boss.
Let Yourself Feel Disappointed
First off, you need to let yourself feel disappointed. Heck, if you need to cry about it, go ahead! Don’t let anyone else invalidate your feelings or tell you, “It’s just a job application, don’t be a baby about it.” Rejection hurts, and it’s okay to be upset. According to Caroline Reidy, managing director of the HR Suite, in this post from US News and World Report, feeling sad is an understandable reaction. Just don’t stay in that state of mind. Give yourself time to feel upset, then move forward.
Reframe Your Job Rejections
Getting several job rejections can be frustrating and might even discourage you from applying for other jobs. You need to reframe your rejections as a redirection. Instead of considering it as a failure, think of it as a step toward the job you deserve. Maybe that company wasn’t the best fit, or there’s even a better company around the corner. Sometimes, what feels like a loss is a silver lining.
Ask Politely for More Detailed Feedback
Not many companies will do this, but if you feel comfortable doing so, you can ask the hiring manager for feedback. But if they do, it’s a valuable insight into how you can improve and ace your next interview. However, if they did provide feedback, keep in mind that it may not be as tailored to your interview result as you’d hope (sadly, they might not even remember you.) Hiring managers aren’t obligated to reply to you and you might get another generic email even if you request constructive criticism.
It’s Not Always About You
Sometimes, job rejections aren’t even about you. Maybe they hired an internal candidate, or they promoted the boss’ stepdaughter. Often, hiring decisions are influenced by factors completely out of your control or irrelevant to your qualifications. Don’t overthink it or take it too personally.
Don’t Stop Applying
It’s easier said than done because after receiving your nth rejection, it’s easy to feel demotivated. You might start thinking, “Why do I need to apply for a job? I’ll probably be rejected again anyway.” But the best way to bounce back after a rejection is to keep moving forward. Every application is a fresh opportunity. There’s also no harm in reaching out to your network and asking them if they know of any job openings suitable for you. Keep networking and putting yourself out there!
Build Resilience
Do you know that song by Kelly Clarkson?
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! Every “no” makes you more resilient. Each rejection is a learning opportunity, and before you know it, after all the “no,” you’ll soon have your “yes.” Trust the process.
Celebrate Small Wins
Getting rejection after rejection can make anyone feel embittered. To avoid feeling that way, celebrate small wins. Did you get an email invitation for an interview? Yay for you! Did you make it to the next round? Now, you know what it feels like to audition for American Idol! Every step forward is progress, even if it doesn’t end in a job offer, because it will shape you into a more experienced candidate.
Final Thoughts
Job rejections are tough, but don’t let them crush your spirits. Remember all your goals and motivations and why you’re looking for a job in the first place. Learn from all your experiences and keep going. The right opportunity for you is right around the corner.
